Many ignore widows.
Many pretend abuse of widows is hearsay including those in the seat of government.
Many know widows are abused and robbed of their legal rights. God bless those who go over and beyond to squash such in their network or communities.
Many know some widows are serially raped by inlaws they are forced to marry yet, many casually call it tradition!
Many know widows but never care enough to get into why they went from living in homes to living in apartment or rooms or from place to place.
Issue of widow abuse has been institutionalised via involvement of JUDICIARY and POLICE. All faith, all status, all ethnicity, all race, both genders are involved.
Sadly, many widows have died from abuse, neglect, dehumanisation, mental maladies and poverty often occasioned by disillusionment, injected by discrimination and disinheritance.
Many are sent to psychiatric homes on false diagnosis. This happened to me. When I tried to stand my ground after I was locked out from our 5bed home in Edgewater New Jersey, police called ambulance on false diagnosis of being suicidal and I was confined. Thank God they did not connive with the psychiatric doctor. She evaluated and released me after which police from Englewood returned to brutalise and threaten me.
In light of ongoing protests across America, I wanted you to be AWARE that injustice is deep and far more entrenched than a public knee to the neck that killed George Floyd. But there is a price for injustice, sooner than later. Hence, I urge you not to join the code of secrecy to conceal or minimise INJUSTICE.
In Nigeria, where some folks have picked on and protested about racism in USA, terrorism is on RED ALERT. Many ills are on the rise, added to it is robbery, one of which took place in a bank yesterday leaving many including those in a nearby police station dead, and merciless rape gruesomely garnished by murder! I was still considering pulling the video below when I heard another female has turned up dead because some idiotic animal couldn’t put a leash on his penis.
But social media is doing more harm by ONLY crying out loud about rape when the whole country is being RAPED 247 by ILLS, which include widow abuse, poverty and police brutality.
I urge the 8490 Executive to plan another zoom meeting to enable us discuss Surviving Beyond Covid (bringing resolution to crisis before, during and after covid). Covid did not cause people to rape but some got wilder with being locked up, domestic violence shot up, child molestation, forced labour, modern day slavery, trafficking increased.
But, thousands of widows have been routinely raped for years and tagged tradition by those who force them to marry brothers or fathers of deceased husband. I bet the women didn’t joyfully open up to moan for more when it was time to do the do! That’s RAPE.
Many children are being raped too. You have a duty to protect your child and other children in your care, even from siblings and staff!
I just published Child Sexual Abuse. It went off the press on my birthday and should arrive today. Those in the USA can get a copy immediately because it can be printed on demand. It is going for a minimum donation of $50. This is because we are yet to launch or mass produce, I only printed few copies for my archive. But I am willing to share with folks who won’t turn round to kick my developing behind by going to mass produce. Those who wish to donate towards the causes I push are free to also send their donation and, this gift (USA for now) or any other title (NG, USA, UK for now) would be sent to them.
I never want to have to deal with the matter of anyone I know being raped or worse still accused of rape - whether of the mind (emotional abuse), of pen (forgery), of material or money (fraud) or of genitals!
I escaped an attempt of rape by a deputy governor’s son while at the university. It made me a frigid rigid wreck despite the fact that the Holy Spirit stopped what could have been. You could not touch me then without earning a slap. It was fast and sharp. Every man who came too close became a predator and my instinct guided against rape in a way I could not control. While I became healed, it left me with issues I may carry for a lifetime including maybes and whatifs. So when you hear rape, picture YOU being violated especially by someone you TRUST. If it happens to your spouse or child, how easy would it be for you to brush the trauma aside and move on. This thought alone should lead you to ensure prevention is core.
The link below reveals an instance where sexual abuse in primary school has left a brilliant girl in high school dealing with mental health damage. She now cannot do without sex. Her parents are not aware. At home, she is the good natured brilliant girl. And yes she is, just living with a mental health issue, pinned on her by a rapist, for which others would stigmatise her.
If you have a sexual related issue, send me a direct message for counsel (no make mistake post am here o). I will schedule you for direct counsel and it is STRICTLY CONFIDENTIAL. If it beyond me, I will refer you. The story can turn up in my talk but never ever would it be related to you or your name. I use the scenarios to heal others. I did not earn a doctorate so I can carry the sense to the grave. If you need more than generic counsel and can afford it, you will be invoiced. But generic counsel help many, who are focused on DIY and willing to yield. For those who may not be aware, I am also a Fellow of Sexuality Leadership Development. I earned my fellowship well ahead of doctorate. One of few in Africa. Make I no talk global make una no begin ask for data. 
If you don’t want counsel, ask your woman (or man) to sign up for more, while you manage it as you would any other craving or obsession. If she can’t, marry extra husband or wife. If you can’t pay for sex where it is legal but be sure to save yourself and significant other from the effect... No. I won’t preach this on a pulpit and I am not advocating it now, lest you twist my knocked knees further. What I am saying is, no man or woman should become an accused person in matters of libido (especially with a minor) when you have gazillion options. It would kill anyone to be behind pressure bars for 5 minutes pleasure!
If a minor offers you sex, DECLINE. If an adult you are not in an open relationship with offers you sex, ask him or her to write it down or offer to pay for it as a commodity (and issue receipts 🤣, na you know wetin you wan write; teacher no teach me nonsense)! It is that serious now. In countries where it is illegal, paying for sex is a far lesser offence than being accused of RAPE. And many women turn round to accuse men of rape when the expected end does not justify their input or reason for it. Be aware.
In Nigeria, it was an offence to propose marriage and not follow it through. I believe it became an offence because a promissory note could be reason folks sign into what they may ordinarily not have signed into. After all, some would confess to buying things on credit before including food and clothes. Those who use credit card still do! I have folks who bought lipstick from me at the university and till date never paid. I let them have it because they promised to pay.
I know some demonic people afflict with penile or vaginal madness, if that is your case, seek spiritual deliverance before you get dragged around with the very precious (a)gender that celebrates your personhood. It is better to pay the price for healing than have to be publicly shamed on account of voodoo laced on you.
Back to widow abuse and the conspiracy of silence, please be sure to share this with those who represent Umu Ada in your culture, if you ain’t Igbo.
And for those saying, I have no clue what widow abuse is, biko-gbalia please-try READ. You cannot beware, if you are not aware.
We cannot just continue to speak gēsi or n’gbati, hence I recorded below in pidgin. Be sure to share below with my people for yonder, whose lingo na pidgin. #ENDWIDOWABUSE
PLEASE JOIN US TO #ENDWIDOWABUSE.
Widows cannot be silent.
Non widows should not be silent.
Together we CAN destroy the systemically demonic root of widow abuse.
Time is NOW to END WIDOW ABUSE.
I am a transformational strategist... I write to right minds. Please. Survive. Thrive.
Be sane. Be safe. Be.
Dr. Omolola Omoteso
Twitter @AnneMuyiwa
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